Big B stands for Bands, Balance and Boundaries.
We all agree your 20s are the ghetto especially your early 20s and I personally will not be disclosing in detail just how deep in the ghetto I have been but I’ve racked up a couple of miles. Nonetheless, I have learnt that my early 20 are currently dedicated to:
Bands.
In the the spirit of Barbism, Onika Tanya Maraj once said broke people should never laugh and I don’t know about you when the queen talks I listen. When I say money I don’t mean physically, I mean everything that comes with Capitalism, money anxiety, outgrowing a broke mentality, having a lack mindset and money management. (Maybe the B stands for budget too.)
Meticulously and let’s be honest, painfully; learning money management has been something I just properly got the hang of at 22 but not before I unpacked my inner fears of not having money and the effect that can have on your self esteem. It was until I decided to become delusional enough to believe that I am good regardless of my account status that I overcame my broke mentality, my lack mindset and things of that nature. I still had to make a budget though which is not fun when I just want shake my ass like I’m in my 20’s am I not? Additionally, I have tried all the excel budgeting sheets and nothing worked like my trusty Notes app so you have everything you need already.
Also shout out to the fraud boy who tried to ruin me this year. Wishing nothing but negativity your way and all weapons formed against you to prosper like they have never before #Speakingfromtheheart
Balance
Learning that life is about Balance. It sounds pretty obvious but harder in practice. As a Pisces rising and South Node (shout out to my Astro babes) or as a regular person with personality traits (for the rest of you non believers;) I find it extremely difficult to separate the world in my head from objective reality. I have learnt to work on balancing the dreamer in me with the action in me, the creative vs the logic in me (I know my Astro babes see what’s happening here). My default setting is creativity so when I realised that I actually have to take steps in action towards what I want to achieve I was annoyed, confused, bamboozled but them rise and grind n*ggas are right you gotta put in the work practically. The ghetto!
In my 20s I’m learning to lean into my support system for help when I need it cause living inside my head too much without balance doesn’t help either.
Boundaries.
I saved the most ghetto for last. Who invented this I would like to speak to the manager I have several notes. This is currently a working progress about our to my anxious avoidant babes we liveeee. Painfully learning that loving accepting and forgiving everyone is not it, and that you actually have to speak up and address things is not whereitsgoodat™️ but it’s the grown thing to do lmao. Anyway me and my homegirls still figuring it out so all you demons stay away! The best advice I received was that it’s more for you than it is for them and you will not die by asking for what you’re worth.
I hope to have more to say on this topic as I grow because right now, Yè!
As a TessaTime™️ special you can listen to the Money playlist I made exclusively for Apple Music here
