Care Package In Case You Down Bad.

A collection of thoughts, learnt lessons, poems and affirmations.

On Freedom

Freedom to me is synonymous with autonomy. I seek freedom in all aspects of my life but most importantly in my relationships. Anyone that loves me wants complete autonomy for me and for themselves.

Individuality

My individuality is my superpower, for me to learn and understand how to use it. It’s not for anyone else to understand but only to accept. Knowing who you are saves you from a lot of people who are looking for themselves in others.

Being perceived

Work in progress.

Relationships

Relationships are important and cultivate a lot of personal growth. Harmony is good but most things that stick are learnt within the conflict. It’s okay to be scared of it at first. Doesn’t make you weak. But feel the fear and face the conflict anyway. The fear will soon turn into strength.

Go where you are watered and stay there. Stay where you find ease and comfort, not tension and manipulation.

Speak your truth. Always. Even if it scares you. Even if it makes you uncomfortable.

Putting people on a pedestal is not beneficial to both you and them.

Seek deep connections, not deep attachments.

There are people who will try and change you and ask for more than you can give but there are also people that will accept you just as you are and pour into you. Choose your avatar.

Family

Family is our first understanding of community. You can’t choose your family but you can choose to learn from your experiences and apply them to the world. If you’re struggling with acceptance, unconditional acceptance, look to your family. Acceptance helps ease the shackles of attachment. After that comes growth and freedom.

Spirituality

Spirituality is very instrumental to the understanding of oneself and the fact of existence. Align yourself with your understanding of this as much as you can. Remember no one actually knows what’s fact. We’re all free-styling. No one has monopoly on spirit so you might as well do you.

Growth

For light to exist so does darkness. If you’re struggling with understanding the process of growth, look to nature and see how each cycle each stage has to occur for nature to bloom. Before the flower comes the seed buried in soil for days and nights, the shoot that endures the rain, the wind, the cold, the sun till eventually the flower and the fruit. Even the flower dies to make way for the fruit. Acceptance and stillness make for a great recipe for growth.

Darkness

When I was little I was scared of the dark then suddenly one day I wasn’t anymore. There’s no point to that story lmao just an observation. There’s a lot to learn in the dark, the things that scare us, the things we have been told are bad, the dark thoughts and emotions. Don’t be scared don’t be ashamed. Approach it with curiosity. Question everything. Always

Music

Music can speak for you when you can’t find the words. Music can heal and narrate your life. Music is spiritual so treat it as such and feed it accordingly.

Communication

Ultimately what connects and divides us. It’s important but only in conjunction with validation, affirmation, comprehension, and free of judgement. Context is always important and so is the delivery of your message. Context of one’s history and perspective. Shaming people for their communication style is not the give you think it is. Have a little patience and take into account the traumas people might have faced which affect their communication style. Telling someone who might have been hit as a child, someone who grew up with toxic parents, someone who struggles with confidence or people-pleasing to just SPeAK up as SOon as YoU hAvE an IssUe and condemning them for not being at the same level as you doesn’t help the situation. It invalidates their feelings and takes away from the issues at hand. You can encourage growth of course but in between that is the patience to get from point A to B. The trial and error. Apply understanding and compassion.

Anxiety

One of the worst things to be invented. Admitting I had anxiety and asking for help was the first step to healing for me. Anxiety is a sign of dis alignment. Stop the tracks and work to find it then look at it, validate it and set it free.

Your Roots

A lot is found within your roots. Curiosity research and asking questions is a good place to start. Getting centred in your roots and identity works wonders. Your roots are in your family, your lineage, your language, culture, food, country, tribe, community. Find your way back